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Alt.com Review (2020)

Alt.com Review: Erotic BDSM & Fetish Dating Community

If you’re looking for something new, like BDSM, fetishes or unlocking your deepest, darkest fantasies, then Alt.com is a great place to start. It’s been named one of the best fetish dating websites for kinky adults.

Make no bones about it -- it’s an adult site, one that allows you to explore different role with a wide range of people who are into the same thing. You can connect online or meet in person, and it really doesn’t matter whether you’re an amateur or expert because it’s a site for all.

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Pros and Cons


  • The members are incredibly diverse and cater for any sexual need.
  • Their safety features are really successful in creating a safe, secure community.
  • Couples can join up together.

X Cons:

  • You basically can’t do anything unless you upgrade. It’s not even possible to look at other users’ profiles.
  • The website isn’t the easier to use, with loads of features and pop-ups to navigate through.

Who’s on Alt.com? What’s the member structure?

Generally, people who love BDSM, bondage and fetish sex. But the membership group is very vast; you might get people who want to experiment with sex, or couples and groups looking for individuals to join them.

Members: There are over 1.9 million members around the world. 292,305 are from the UK. There are also over 10,500 BDSM amateurs, dominatrixes and mistresses on the site.

Member Activity: 998,126 members are active. The site gets around 13,000 new users a month. In just one week, 8,475 bondage photos were posted, so member engagement is very high.

Gender proportion: 80% Male and 20% Female

Age distribution

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How The Alt.com Site Works

Alt.com is basically an adult website where you can share X-rated videos, fetishes, fantasies and porn. You can either interact through the website or meet up and continue the fun offline.

It’s totally open and nothing is off limits, so instead of being sent daily matches you’re left to find people you want to experiment with through their search feature.  Find reviews of Alt.com here to see what people have to say.

How to Signup to Alt.com -- how to join?

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You can sign up as a single or a couple, and can choose more than one option for who you’re looking for (both a woman or a man, for example). You then add your DOB and country and county of residence.

Next, you’ll be able to choose a unique username that will be on show to all members -- choose wisely! Alt.com then asks for a bit more information about yourself, including your sexual preference, body type, race and dominance preference.

The last part is to write an introduction title (which is required) and a bit about yourself (optional). It only takes a couple of minutes to complete in total.

Ease of use

There is so much to do on the website -- almost too much! But luckily, Alt.com filter out the options pretty well through their navigation which makes browsing much easier.

Visually, it can feel a bit overwhelming with all the different sections and pop-ups, so using Alt.com does take a little bit of getting used to as some of the content isn’t relevant.

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Free members can’t send or read received messages -- you must have a subscription to contact other members directly. However, anyone can join chat rooms or add members to your hotlist. You can send a flirt to other members, too.

Profile quality

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Alt.com does a good job of blurring out X-rating photos with a warning so you don’t see anything you don’t want to. If you’re a free member you can’t really see anything without upgrading.

If you’re lucky enough to be able to view profiles with a subscription, you should find plenty of information about the person you’re checking out. Males even have detailed information about the size of their endowment, meaning each profile gives you all the information you should need to find the right person or people to experiment with.

Alt.com mobile dating app

There’s currently no mobile app for Alt.com.

Real life reviews for Alt.com

Works very well! I’ve made the experience that 90% of all fetish dating sites are a waste of time and should be avoided like the plague. That being said, there are two or three sites which are not bad at all and ALT.com is one of them. IMO totally legit! If you haven’t been lucky on ALT.com there are a few alternatives like BDSMdatingChat.com or Fetish-luts.com, but that’s about it.- it won’t get any better than this.

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Key features

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--My Stuff. Under this section, manage your profile, add photos, videos and blog posts.

--Friend Network. See your friends, top fans, webcam followers, favourite photos and videos.

--My Hotlist. Get an overview of flirts you’ve sent, profiles you’ve viewed, people who’ve viewed and flirted with you, among many other things.

--Search. Alt.com’s flagship search feature, where you can discover other members to experiment with.

--Hot or Not. A feature like Tinder (and that many dating sites now have) where you can give a thumbs up or down to random members. The ones you like will appear in your hotlist.

--Community. This is where you’ll find the blog, groups, magazine and bling (little icons that show off your personality).

--Live Action. With this section, discover chat rooms, live webcams and instant messenger.

--What’s Hot. All the hottest videos, photos and members.

--Purity Test. Find out if you’re a sexual overachieve or a naughty newbie. Answers will appear on your profile if you allow it.


Is Alt.com safe?

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Alt.com’s verification process is very strict as you can’t use the site without verifying your profile after sign up. You can also control what’s visible or not on your profile to protect your privacy.

They also have plenty of content on their website with tips on how to keep yourself safe, and their number one piece of advice is to make sure you don’t share any personal information with other members.

Lastly, you can also report member abuse or sexually explicit ads.


How much does ALT cost? What are the prices?

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There are two membership packages that you can upgrade to:

Silver membership:

  • 1 month: £20.95
  • 3 months: £12.95
  • 12 months: £8.95

This gives you access to the following:

  • View and contact paying members
  • Show up after gold members in searches
  • Contact new members
  • Access members’ live and recorded video intros
  • Partial access to blogs, groups and magazine features
  • 24/7 phone support

Gold membership:

  • 1 month: £31.95
  • 3 months: £15.95
  • 12 months: £8.95

With a gold membership, you unlock the following features:

  • View and contact paying members
  • Show up at the top in searches
  • Be the first to contact new members
  • Get full access to members’ live and recorded video intros
  • Get full access to blogs, groups and magazine features
  • 24/7 phone support
  • See large photos
  • Access to ICQ, AIM, YIM & MSN ID’s of members in your network

Discounts, offers & promo codes

When we signed up, Alt.com were offering 6 months free with a 12-month gold membership.

If you do a Google search you can sometimes find money off passes too, so make sure you shop around before you commit.

Is Alt.com free? Are there free trials?

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Anyone can join Alt.com for free. Features are quite limited without a membership, but you can upload photos, join a chat room, flirt, send flowers, add members as a friend and to your hotlist, and search member profiles.

Is Alt.com a good website?

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Alt.com knows its market and it shows, catering for pretty much every kind of sexual preference you could think of. It aims to produce a diverse community that’s inclusive of all but also safe, so members can feel comfortable about experimenting with new people without putting themselves at risk. They do a really good job of this.

It’s a shame that so many features are locked to people without a subscription. In all honesty, it’s not worth using Alt.com if you’re not planning to upgrade as there’s not a lot you can do. But this does make sense, as they want all members to feel safe with their privacy taken care of, which is definitely a positive. We don’t really like the website -- it’s a bit clunky and hard to navigate through, but with so many members it’s a great place to start to find someone after the same thing as you.


  • Popularity
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  • Safety
  • Ease of Use

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What should I do if I’m not getting a password or emails from Alt.com?

Many email providers now use anti-spam software, which is probably causing you problems. Unfortunately, due to the amount of emails Alt.com sends, your email provider might have classified Alt.com messages as spam. To begin receiving messages again, add the Alt.com email to your safe list as a ‘safe sender’ or ‘safe recipient’.

It is possible to receive many emails from Alt.com in a day. However, if you report any of the emails as spam then it is likely that future emails will be labelled as spam and you will not receive them. Avoid marking emails as spam to avoid this problem.

How do I search for other members on Alt.com?

To search for other members:
-- Login to your account
-- Click the ‘Search’ link in the navigation bar
-- Select the member’s handle (or ‘username’), or you can use the form available to search by criteria
-- Select the ‘Search’ button
-- To save the search setting enter a title for the search and click ‘Save’ (this option is available to Premium members)

What should I do if it says my Alt.com password is incorrect?

There are a few reasons why your password and username are not matching up. Try using your browser’s ‘back’ button to return to the login screen. From here, clear the fields and enter your information again. If you are still having problems, try to use the automated password/ username lookup form.

Other reasons your password might not work could include:
-- Your account has been deleted during the review process. Check your email inbox for a notice saying your account has been removed.
-- You updated your account and now have a new password. Check your email inbox for a new password and try logging in again.
-- Clear your browsers cache, and make sure you aren’t using a Bookmark or Hotlist link.

What is the the purpose of Alt.com?

The ALT.com dating site offers you a place to connect with people, find friendship, romance and a variety of encounters. To find a match, Alt.com offers several features to help you narrow down your search so you can find the kind of person you are looking for. These features aim to make your time at alt.com a fun and successful dating experience.

How do I contact other members on Alt.com?

To contact other members:
-- Log into Alt.com
-- Enter your username and password
-- Select the ‘Login’ button
-- Locate the profile you would like to message
-- Once on the member’s profile page, scroll down to the middle of the page where you will find the email form ‘Send user an email’ or select the ‘Send an email’ link found in the ‘Interact’ section.
-- Enter your message
-- Fill in the confirmation number
-- Select ‘Click to send the above message’ button

How do I get email from other members?

When you get an email from other members, the message will appear in your free ‘Message Center’, TO access your Message Center:
-- Login to your account
-- Select the Inbox button on the top navigation bar
-- This will open your Inbox where you can find any messages you might have received.

How does Email Availability work?

Email Availability allows you to stop other members, who don’t match your settings from sending you emails. A member who doesn’t match with you only sees a shaded area in your profile instead of a normal email form.

What is Voice Greeting?

This is a recording of your voice where you can introduce yourself to other members who are viewing your profile.

How do I record a Voice Greeting?

Head to your homepage and select the ‘Voice Greeting’ link in the Profile box. When the voice greeting software has loaded, a setup box will request camera and microphone access.

When you know what you want to say, select ‘Record’. Click ‘Stop’ once you are finished talking. If you want to hear what you recorded, select ‘Play’. Then click ‘Save’to add the Voice Greeting to your profile.

What are the Popularity Privileges on Alt.com?

The Popularity Privileges are rewards you receive when you have a lot of profile views. If you get a certain number of views on your profile within a time-frame of three days, then you will automatically have free access to 50 members’ profiles.

How can I receive Popularity Privileges?

You can be rewarded with privileges in a few ways. For example, writing a compelling introduction, adding photos, recording sexy videos, having testimonials or even posting to Alt.com’s magazine and advice lines.

How can I change my username?

Change your username by going to ‘My Account’, selecting ‘Change Username’, entering a new username and then clicking ‘Check Availability’.

What are Profile Highlights?

The Profile Highlights are background colours that you can use to get other members attention. These colours will show up whenever other members see your emails or see you in the search results. The highlights allow your profile to standout from the rest.

What is the Purity Test?

The Purity Test asks different questions to reveal how pure or naughty you might be.

What is the Fetish Consent Worksheet?

The Fetish Consent Worksheet is a form that can be printed and used by play partners when they are agreeing a scene. Through this negotiation and agreement in different fetish acts, both you and your play partner are able to have pleasure in your sexual adventure without any confusion about expectations.

How can I use the Fetish Checklist?

To use the Fetish Checklist, click the ‘Edit Profile’ link on your homepage. Select the ‘Alt.com Fetish Checklist’ link. Then you can select the fetishes that you like, interest level, preferred role and experience level. After you specify your fetishes, select the ‘Save’ button to save your Fetish Checklist to your profile.

What is Magazine?

The magazine is a page that includes member contributed content. This includes poetry, essays, advice and success stories. Whenever you submit your own content or respond to the forum, you are rewarded with points.

How do I know if members on Alt.com are real or fake?

Alt.com only requires a valid email address from all members and you are unable to get a password without one. For this reason, any member of the site found guilty of harassing another member can be found through that member’s ISP (Internet Service Provider) where they can be traced.

These people will be banned from membership on Alt.com. The service itself is confidential. The site does not do extensive background checks on members and does not take responsibility for any problems with your use of the site. It’s important to take common sense and be careful about sharing personal information with the people you meet on the site.

What is ConfirmID?

ConfirmID on Alt.com is a third-party verification service that confirms members’ attributes. This includes attributes such as gender, age and body type. This verification aims to establish trust.

What’s the difference between entering as a guest and entering as a member?

Alt.com operates on a membership system so that they are able to keep data files that contain your profile information and other details like your ‘Hotlist’ etc. Guests are able to enter the site and browse the available listings, however in order to post a listing and use the features the site offers -- you must become a member.

Is Alt.com expensive or cheap?

If you compare Alt.com to other dating site providers, it is considered upper moderate in price.

What’s the difference between being a Standard member and a Premium member?

As a standard member, you have access to the chat rooms and magazine message boards. If you’re a premium member, you get access to member profiles and also different email functions.

Where and how can I view my billing history?

To view your billing history, go to ‘My Account’ and select ‘Billing History and Credit Card Info’. You will then see your billing information.

Is alt.com free to use?

You can find a range of membership packages with alt.com. The Standard membership is free and as a standard member you can chat, exchange messages and browse through the profile database. You are also given access to the interactive magazine where you can post questions, advice and articles.

If you decide you want to speed up your search you can always upgrade to a Premium membership. With the Premium membership you are given more features.

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